Favorite Quote on Childhood

Thursday, May 24, 2012

My Connections to Play

"Play is the work of childhood." Author: Unknown

“Play is the beginning of knowledge.” ~ Anonymous


  Are two quotes that I feel best defines play.

Children act out through play their life’s experiences. This was true in my childhood play as well. Going down my memory lane and trying to recollect my childhood days, I remember my favorite play was acting out the church scene. I used to dress up in a sari and pretend sitting in the church singing songs and acting out taking part in the Lord’s Table. I would get my younger brother to play along. If my cousins came over it was even merrier. My other favorite toy was the doll I had which used to go everywhere with me even to the grocery stores and on airplanes travelling across continents. My doll played various roles, if she was my student at one time, she would be my daughter for whom I had to cook with my cookery set and feed at another instance, or even my patient for whom I had to give injections to bring down the fever. I could stretch my imagination to far extents. As children progress their level of play also progresses. As I grew older, I enjoyed board games like monopoly and I still do (though I enjoy playing Cluedo now more than monopoly).

My parents were a great support, such that my mother used to go to the sari shop and get the cut remaining pieces of the sari material left for me to play (for those who don’t know what a sari is – Indian women wrap a 6 meter long material that either comes as a single piece or in a roll which has to be cut as per the meter one would require depending on the way it is worn). My father was always ready to buy me toys and even play with me games like carrom board or take me driving in the car with me on his lap where I would soon be imagining myself driving away to my fantasy land. My only sibling, my brother who enjoyed playing with his match box cars, would succumb to my desire to play house or church or whatever my girlish ideas would direct. We would go down to front of the apartment which was all sand and build sand castles with our friends from the next house.

 
(Photos of myself in my childhood days with the play items that were most important to me – Sari and doll)


I feel much of that exploratory and creative play is lost in today’s technological world where even the very young children of today is hooked on to TV, computer games and the latest various different types of three dimensional interactive games like the Nintendo’s and Wii’s. These games may be engaging but it forces children to interact with virtual friends instead of other human children and therefore fail to build negotiation skills and social competence. Even at school, children are denied opportunities to play as more time is devoted to being taught and being tested. Many parents prefer greater importance on academic achievement and therefore teachers are pressurized to increase academic performance by reducing the time ‘wasted’ for play.

What is merely seen as ‘play’ actually helps develop the ‘whole child’. Therefore, we need to educate ourselves as well as the parents to relax and stop pressurizing their children. Children have a great potential for growth and learning. With little scaffolding from us as educators and setting the pace for learning so that it is consistent with the child’s development we can help them succeed. “The most effective kind of education is that a child should play amongst lovely things.” ~ Plato (Greek philosopher). “It is in playing, and only in playing, that the individual child or adult is able to be creative and to use the whole personality, and it is only in being creative that the individual discovers the self.” ~ D.W. Winnicott (British pediatrician)

Friday, May 11, 2012

Relationship Reflection

Consistent quality relationships with caring people, characterized by trust, support, and growth form the foundation for healthy development. I believe for man to exist in a society it is essential to form an environment of relationships because proper human relationships form the basis of society. They incorporate the qualities that best promote competence and well-being – individualized responsiveness, mutual action-and-interac­tion, and an emotional connection to another human being. It is relationships that help us define who we are, what we can become, and how and why we can impact another life. 

Beginning from my birth up to this very day there are several nurtured and stable relationships that play an important role in my life. Starting with my relationship with - my God, my parents, my husband, my son, my husband’s parents, our siblings, my relatives, my colleagues, my students and their families, our church members – makes me who I am and what I have become today. My religious faith has laid the foundation on which I stand and it is my personal relationship with my God that gives me the assurance and the confidence that I need to face my life’s challenges. The relationship with my husband is built on mutual trust and understanding that has kept us together for the past 14 years, even through the times of sorrow and loss when I miscarried and lost our twin boys and through our life’s daily challenge of raising a mentally challenged child. The relationship with my mother is that of love and care which she has so unconditionally bestowed upon me and even sacrificed her desires and her health to stay with me and be a support for me in taking care of our son. Admiration and respect has been the basis of the relationship with my child care center director who has been a mentor to me, guiding me and encouraging me to make me the teacher I am today and motivating me to learn further because of which I am now doing my masters.

Off course, life is not a fairy tale where everyone lives “happily ever after”. In real life there is no magic recipe for happy relationships. Maintaining relationships requires effort and perseverance. Especially, with the relationships that I share with my colleagues and friends. As each person is an individual from their own culture and upbringing, whose experience, education, gender and professional affiliations all differ, it can be quite a challenge to coexist. The road to a successful relationship can be full of potholes and detours, but “staying on course” and maintaining important relationships is a worthwhile endeavor. Appreciating each other and respecting each other, giving each individual in your life the value and significance they deserve, demonstrating empathy and concern, being honest and supportive is the key to maintaining the relationships.

Some of these relationships that I share is more than just mutual interaction, they are more personal, and is therefore the foundation of bidirectional partnerships. Effective partnership is based on agreement of aims, of goals, and of the means to achieving those goals. However, it's unrealistic to expect that everyone will agree immediately on everything. So a relationship that is founded on respectful negotiation is the key to building effective partnership.

As an early childhood professional, building effective partnership with every family is essential in promoting the development of the whole child. Recognizing that human relationships are the ‘building blocks’ that are required for the child’s development and building on partnership with the families of the children under my care, overlooking the biases I may unconsciously carry, building individualized, respectful, responsive and supportive relationship with the families, is the basis for building effective relationships because “Life is about relationships. We all need one another”.